52: The bias bubble, or just straight up naivety

Growing up in the church, we experienced different  things that was instrumental in shaping our lives, choices and behavior.

They called me big head everywhere else but the church, not because they didn’t see that I actually have a big head or because they were being a good brother/sister to me. It was because there was someone else with a bigger head 😂😂.

The drummer, we called him bull dog. His actual name is Michael and he was an extremely talented drummer. Bulldog speaks with the drum, you know those type of solo plays where you can sing along while he drums, and then there was Tosin the talking drummer. They formed a praise band called unlimited praise band

They were the talk of the city. Imagine having the avengers but musically. To top it, they were led by simeon, the greatest of the all. I still remember songs that simeon has written using all those redemption camp theme. It comes to my hand randomly and Ii promise you the nostalgia hits more than seeing your secondary school uniform on kids on the road.

Before I get soaked into the beautiful memory, let’s move on. Now imagine having those avengers now assemble with the power buff girls and fantastic 4 to create a regional teens choir to compete for a place to minister at the redemption camp. Fun fact? For 6 years straight we didn’t win anything 😂😂, so much for squad depth.

I remember one time, we blamed junior for a mistake he made, junior was the keyboardist. He wa so good we called him provoking, wicked!!! Brilliant. But with all these massive talent we no win for 6 straight years. The worst part is we lost to the same people 😂😂. So we were actually robbed? Or we were not as good as I thought?

In 2024, I took my running seriously, as at that time, asides world athletes, nobody was better than Dami to me o, nothing you wan tell me. Then I joined a run crew and I met two guys. SAIDU & Gabriel. These ones don’t run o, they fly. Unfortunately, seeing them as the best in the land, in my own eyes o, they didn’t make top 10 in the just concluded access bank marathon. They were not even the best Nigerian participants.

This makes me wonder if in all of these my experiences, could it be that I was in a mental bubble?

The same bubble that made Dami to see me at the finish line and expressed his shock that he thought i wasn’t gonna finish, that I was going to back out.

It didn’t make sense to me until his recent video where he mentioned how he didn’t finish the 2023 marathon which was his first, then in 2025 he was injured. Seeing the documentary of his journey made me understand his comment about his shock of me finishing.

You most likely don’t know the best, your bias is not the reality. Ronaldo being your best player doesn’t make him better than Messi 🤌🏽

Interestingly like how I thought we were better than region 9 then, or how Dami was shocked I finished, or how I used to think saidu and Gabriel were part of the Nigerians finest, only for everything to be false… well except for the regional choir thing. I still believed we were the avengers…

Sometimes, you don’t have enough information.

Sometimes, you just project your inadequacy to others.

Sometimes, you’re just naive and you live in a bubble.

do you think that maybe it’s time to step out?